« Good discipline leads to success in school and the ability to make friends. »
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Kristell Le Martret
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Donna Riley
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How much is enough?
Published online May 29, 2008
What do we know?
- A loving attitude, clear rules and applying the consequences that were stated will encourage the development of positive behaviours in children.
- When the parent behaves in this way, the child is encouraged to explore his environment while respecting certain limits.
- An enthusiastic parent who gives his child the opportunity to do fun things and be successful will give him confidence and will encourage him to explore his environment.
- Respecting each child’s personality, parents should apply discipline that is not too authoritarian and not too permissive, so that the child will obey instructions.
- Children who are too tightly controlled will have trouble making
decisions and expressing their needs.
- On the other hand, children who are allowed to do anything they want will have trouble knowing what is acceptable and what isn’t.
- Good discipline leads to success in school and the ability to make friends.
- If parents aren’t able to build respect for rules in their child in the early years (0 to 5), he may develop different types of behaviour problems.
- If parents don’t provide enough supervision (aren’t involved in the child’s activities, aren’t encouraging), and react with punishments, temper outbursts or rigidity, there is greater risk that the child will have behaviour problems.
- Discipline that helps the child understand what is acceptable and what isn’t helps him develop social skills, empathy, self-control and the ability to pay attention and plan ahead.
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wht can be done? |
…behaviours in the child that should be
discouraged. |
- Establish clear rules.
- State the consequences that will follow if the rules are not respected.
- Apply the consequences that were stated.
- Ignore the child if his behaviours are not aggressive or disrespectful.
- Apply the technique of withdrawal (short and repeated). For example, take away an object that is a source of
conflict between 2 children or ask the child to withdraw to a quiet place where he can calm down.
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…behaviours in the child that should be
encouraged. |
- Say what the child does well.
- Congratulate the child using both words and actions. For example, express your pride, give hugs, smiles, winks, etc.
- Help the child to see the connections between what he does and the successful outcome.
- Encourage the child to continue.
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…situations that might lead the child to
lose control. |
- Support the child by offering enjoyable ways to calm down. For example, change activities, breathe calmly, distract or
redirect the child attention, etc.
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Information
The Centre of Excellence for Early Childhood Development identifies and summarizes
the best scientific work on the social and emotional development of young children.
It disseminates this knowledge to a variety of audiences in formats and languages
adapted to their needs.
For a more in-depth understanding of discipline, consult our experts’
(aggression/parenting skills) articles in the Encyclopedia on Early Childhood
Development, available free of charge at: www.child-encyclopedia.com.
This information sheet is published by the Centre of Excellence for Early Childhood
Development, one of four Centres of Excellence for Children’s Well-Being. Funding
for the Centres of Excellence is provided by the Public Health Agency of Canada.
The opinions expressed in this publication are those of the authors/researchers and
do not necessarily reflect the official views of the Public Health Agency of Canada.
We are grateful to the Fondation Lucie et André Chagnon for its financial
contribution to produce this information sheet.
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In this document, the masculine form is used to simplify the text. No discrimination is intended.